Traysi Flores Therapy

A slow and spacious approach to therapy
Therapy for adults feeling exhausted by never feeling good enough and yearning to feel secure in their connection to themselves and others.
Offering EMDR therapy and experiential therapy for self-worth, longstanding emotional patterns, and relationship struggles.
Based in Novato, Marin County, offering Online Therapy across California.

You feel like your outside world—demands, relationships, expectations—easily shakes up your internal world, leaving you lost and looking for some sense of internal safety and direction.
Instead, you find yourself:
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Overwhelmed and shut down: You’ve kept up with demands and expectations as if they’re your only driving force- only to find you can’t seem to get in touch with yourself emotionally, identify what it is you’re longing for, or even who you are anymore.
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Making yourself smaller: You’ve kept your feelings and needs quiet- maybe even completely disowned them- for the sake of connection or survival, even long after the threat has disappeared.
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Filled with shame: You can’t shake that voice that insists on reminding you how much you suck at everything—from overanalyzing that one interaction to replaying the times you acted out of alignment with your values and still feel regret about.
As a licensed therapist, I can support you through:
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Chronic low self-esteem: The gnawing feeling you come back to that tells you you’re just not good enough, inadequate, or incapable.
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Emotional flooding and shutting down: Being overcome by emotion that feels like drowning and not knowing how to swim back to calmer waters without turning it all off.
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Difficulty naming and expressing needs and feelings: You’ve gotten so good at turning it off that you’re now not sure how to fully make sense of what you are feeling, let alone what you might need.
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Patterns of unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships: You’ve noticed it is difficult to feel truly connected to those around you because you’ve molded into who others needed you to be for so long, leaving you unsure how to connect authentically. Or maybe you know the relationship you're in is not heading in the right direction but find yourself figuring out whether to try something else or to figure out how to let go.
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Early childhood traumatic experiences: Although the adults in our lives may have done their best, trauma isn’t always about what happened to us—it can also be about what we needed but didn’t receive, leaving us without the support to make sense of and move through life’s challenges.


Services I offer
Online Trauma & Experiential Therapy
For Adults (18+)
Across California
EMDR Therapy
(eye movement desensitization reprocessing)
EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing. It uses bilateral stimulation, such as guided eye movements, to help the brain process painful experiences so they can be stored differently- allowing them to feel less emotionally intense and create space for you to feel and engage differently in the present.
Mindful & Experiential Therapy
Experiential Therapy goes beyond talking about an experience and instead helps us work with what is happening throughout your system in real time. Through approaches such as parts work, EMDR, and imaginatively revisiting a recent experience, we use mindfulness to observe our deeper emotions, beliefs, sensations, urges, and patterns that emerge. From there, we can explore and offer what your system may need- whether that's allowing an emotion to be felt and processed, understanding a protective response, or creating space for a belief to shift. Throughout the process, we continue to slow down and mindfully notice what's happening, what's shifting, and for new experiences to be felt and integrated.
Inner child healing & Parts work
Parts work is a way of understanding the inner workings of our mind and how certain beliefs, emotional responses, and coping mechanisms developed and came to make sense. A belief, expectation, or way of responding may have once made sense, and through parts work, we become curious about how it made sense. In other words, what we perceived—or what really was true—at one point in our lives might not be the case now, yet our minds and bodies can continue responding in ways that once made sense. Inner child work can be a part of this process when the feelings, beliefs, or responses we're exploring seem connected to experiences or needs from earlier in life. Parts and inner child work allow us to gently revisit present-day moments when these old responses become activated and become curious about what you learned, what felt true, and what may have been needed. From there, we can create space for new experiences to be felt, ones that allow you to discover what is true now and, sometimes, what may have been true all along. Throughout this process, we may also draw from mindfulness and experiential therapy, and incorporate EMDR when it feels supportive to the work.
Have other questions?

FAQs
Do you take insurance?
I am currently in network with Aetna, UnitedHealthcare, Providence Health, Optum, and Oxford for online therapy clients in California.
If I’m not paneled with your insurance, I can provide a monthly superbill for you to submit for potential out-of-network reimbursement.
Why don't you take most insurances?
While I care deeply about making therapy accessible, there are important considerations that influence a trauma and attachment focused therapist’s decision to limit insurance panels. Like many clinicians, I’ve chosen to keep my caseload smaller to provide the highest quality, attuned care.
If you’re curious to learn more about the common reasons behind this decision, this article offers a thoughtful perspective that closely reflects my own values and approach:
https://www.eatingdisorderocdtherapy.com/blog/why-dont-most-specialized-therapists-take-insurance
What are your fees?
$180 for a 50-minute online therapy session.
Do you offer a sliding fee?
I do offer a limited number of sliding-scale spots based on financial need. If cost is a barrier, I’m happy to talk about current availability.
Tell me a little bit about yourself and let me know your availability for a free 15-20 minute phone consultation. Can't wait to hear from you!
